20 Feb
20Feb

When you wander around the world of BDSM you have probably come across this term. Femdom, which stands for Female Domination. The term betrays what it's all about, because in black femdom UK it's about power to women, the experience is based on the fact that a woman is superior to men in biological and / or spiritual terms.




Sometimes the term 'Female supremacy' is used or LFA (Loving Female Authority), but that comes down to the same thing. The woman is everything, the man is nothing. Within the Femdom the men are therefore dominated by the women. How this happens is highly dependent on the sum of both. For one person it can take very extreme forms in the form of a TPE relationship , while for other people this 'way of life' is only subtly present.


For me, Femdom is the purest game of power and surrender.


Slaves

The submissives within the Femdom are often referred to as slaves, but you might as well speak about sub , pig, nikser, property, prutser, follower, slut or whatever she likes. After all, she determines what his role should be and what she wants to call him. At least, within the Femdom experience. If you experience this from a relationship or marriage, it is perfectly possible to have an equal relationship outside of the experience, whereby Femdom is only experienced during the BDSM experience. That is also different with every relationship. In other cases, the inequality will always be felt. In fantasy, this probably sounds retreat, but you have to be very strong if you want to make this a reality.


The slaves within the Femdom long for the feeling that they want to be 'nothing'. Only serve her in various areas. They place responsibility and power in their hands with confidence. This can be in the form of service, indulgence, humiliation, but of course also by wanting to suffer for her. Everything revolves around her happiness. At least, it seems, because of course the slave also derives pleasure, excitement and / or pleasure from this experience. Also at black femdom UK it is a game of together, and not a one-person party of the Lady.


Femdom Lady

Just like a thousand and one names are used for the submissives, so does the Dominique ladies. They are called Femdom Mistress, Lady, Dominatrix, FemDomme, Mommy, Princess, Goddess, Lady, Boss, (Body) Owner, Domina, Goddess and more. My sub, for example, calls me 'Liefste', but he also does that beyond experience. After all, I am and always remain his 'dearest', whatever he must do for me. If he were to call me 'Mistress', the purity of the experience would be shortened and it would become more of a game. And for us it is not a game, it is an intense way of being together, out of love and in a way that makes both of us happy. It is also the ultimate way for us - due to the hectic pace of the day - to get close together again. During a BDSM experience, it almost seems as if you are crawling into the body and head of the other person. It is almost impossible to get closer together than during such a moment.


The Femdom Lady gets her pleasure from the power and control that she has over her slave. In addition, she will also enjoy seeing his suffering. It will probably not only be naturally dominant, but also sadistic. I speak here for myself, but I can intensely enjoy seeing my sub suffer. I love his red stripes and his dedication makes me melt. My sub doesn't like pain, but takes pleasure in the fact that he sees me enjoying it. And yes, I enjoy torturing him, his moans and writhing. At those moments I will only love him more.


In fantasy or Femdom sites, the Femdomladys are usually depicted in tight leather, high-heels or sexy latex. Of course this is not about this at all. A Femdom experience can be just as intense when you do this in your home coffee, jeans or barefoot. On the other hand, this type of clothing can also have a reinforcing effect on both sides. It is suddenly clear what is expected of both. But with or without exciting clothing, it is ultimately all about the energy that emanates from both and the same view of finding each other in a certain way. Everybody, from their own experience, wanting to meet each other, as pure acceptance of each other's 'being'. Both different, together one whole.


TPE

You can implement Femdom to a TPE relationship, a relationship form in which it determines everything. After all, the sub is nothing. She decides on everything from how the money is spent to, so to speak, what time the sub has to go to bed. That can take extreme forms and in fantasy it probably sounds somehow raw and pure, but would you really like to sleep on the floor next to her bed every day? Want to be treated and be satisfied with the crumbs? Only a few people are able to do this, but for the majority Femdom is limited to certain moments or to a subtle thread through the relationship.

And that's fine too. Everyone colors their own pictures, there is no good or bad way, there is only one way to experience it intensely and that is the way that suits you.

When I talk about BDSM, I sometimes mention that BDSM is the pure blueprint of 'together'. With every other partner, that experience can suddenly become very different. It is therefore important that you do not make a play of it with rules made up by others, because you think it should be that way. Nothing has to. You determine your own game and what others do is their game. Do not try to copy that, because it is at the expense of the intensity of your experience.


Without TPE (where the T stands for Total and therefore it is really an 'all or nothing' situation) the Lady can still be in control, without this being visible dominance. For example, my sub has a camera in his living room, on which I can - through my smart phone - follow exactly what happens there, when I happen to be absent. He also knows that I regularly check his phone, whether he has been good and not slut-frying with other women. Our days always start with kissing my feet as standard. He will not leave the bed earlier. Should it ever happen that he forgets, it will have painful consequences for him.

In addition, I naturally monitor his chastity. He can't do anything without me, don't cum, don't play with himself, nothing. His cock is just mine and I decide what happens to it. Or not.


Power and surrender

black femdom UK is an experience of power and surrender. But where is the ultimate power, who determines? Because it is a game of 'together'. It cannot go further than the sub can mentally or physically. Who then has the ultimate power? Boundaries can be looked up, sometimes even moved a little, but in the end there is always a natural boundary that you will have to deal with. Incidentally, this applies not only to the limits of the sub, but also to the limits of the Dominant. Perhaps the sub has a fantasy that the Dominant goes too far. It is important to keep talking about this together, because it is important to always stay close to yourself and not to do things that you can get a bad feeling about later, because you have gone along an important border.



Everything revolves around trust and once it is disturbed, it is difficult to rebuild.


Topping from the bottom

Have you ever heard of the term 'Topping from the bottom'? The term means that the sub - ultimately through manipulation - ultimately determines what will happen. This can quite disrupt a pure experience. Personally, I think this is something other than a 'riot-subje' ... and there are also different degrees. I myself have a fairly dominant sub (and I wouldn't want it any other way), which can absolutely 'riot', at least in the eyes of others. I myself have a different opinion about that. This 'rioting' mainly happens when he has not completely dived into his feeling to descend into himself and the moment. He needs time to get out of his head and to be absorbed in the here and now. I read it in his eyes, I see exactly when he has descended into his surrender to me. From that moment on I can take him deeper and deeper into the feeling of 'nothing'. But that is only possible if he has been able to shake off his daily facade. He needs this 'riot behavior' for that and time goes by, there is no switch switch on him.

At black femdom UK parties I sometimes see people watching (or they even pronounce it!), With a look: "Do you pick that?" Yes, I pick that up. In fact, I sometimes have to laugh a lot about it. On the way to that intense surrender we have fun. We laugh with and around each other. I can also laugh about it because I know that in his experience there will be a changeover moment, and from that moment on he will do everything I say and want. And until that moment, he may try to shake off his daily attitude in this world in his own way. This can sometimes be done with one finger and sometimes it takes a little longer for that. And no, that's okay and I don't care what others think of it. After all, it is about our experience and not about that of others.

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